This is just a preliminary, right? But here we go:
i have six new books to read. Six. Am i insane? {Laughing…)
Just click on the title for a link to more information about the books. i now have:
Urban Tantra: sacred sex for the twenty-first century by Barbara Carrellas, because i heard she does a good job with tantra sex.
Living M/s and Sex, Stories and Power Exchange, both by Dan and dawn Williams, because i’m wild about them and their presentation on sensual humiliation was fabulous.
The Ethical Slut and Radical Ecstasy, both by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton, because my daughter’s been telling me for 10 years that i should read The Ethical Slut, and the other one just looked really good.
Ask the Man who Owns Him by david stein withDavid Schachter, because Raven recommended it when i talked to him at COPE. They interview 16 gay M/s couples and try to identify the traits of the relationship that make it successful.
That should keep me busy for a while!
i discovered that the sound of someone playing with a whip is hot, and commands immediate attention, even if it’s in the vendor area.
i learned that there’s something called “anal relaxer” which purports to relax the area without numbing it. Sounds like a good idea. i always thought numbing it could be kind of risky.
i found out about “cell popping,” which is like a temporary form of branding. Yeah, a temporary brand. No, i didn’t get one! i didn’t even go to that workshop.
Jay Wiseman, author of many books and rope expert, admired my collar (yes, really!) AND ~ we chatted a little at dinner Saturday night, and discovered some common interests. He testifies as a BDSM expert sometimes, and was telling me about DSM diagnoses that he’s gotten to know all about. Then he was telling me about a therapist he knows with interests similar to mine. i said i’d be interested in sharing information with her.
Anyhow, today, as i was leaving the event area, he stopped me and asked me to friend him on fetlife, so he can connect me with the therapist he knows. Now, i’m sure he has a zillion and a half friends, but still, he asked me to friend him. i think that’s pretty cool.
i have a whole new reading list of books, scattered throughout my notes. For example, The Alchemy of Love and Lust, by Theresa Crenshaw. That sounds interesting, doesn’t it?
i learned that an important rule to remember in bondage is that ~ and i quote ~ “the scrotum is not a load bearing hardpoint.”* Apparently, if you attach one end of a rope to the top of someone’s scrotum, and the other end to something that is not part of that person’s body, really bad things can happen.
Like, just for example, if you’re leading your slave around that way in a BDSM club, and you’re wearing spike heels, and you fall ~ that can quickly lead to a trip to the ER. And ~ the most likely cause of a trip to the ER is a fall. Or, um, a trip…
Funny, if it’s not your scrotum attached to the end of the rope, right?
Ok, enough for now. Almost time to figure out what to do for dinner…
*Originally misquoted, see “In Need of Correction” for explanation…
Thank you, Aisha for the book links. I’m definitely adding Urban Tantra to my next Amazon order. It sounds like a “new” way to practice Tantra without all the mystical Sanskrit jargon. So anyone can “jump on in and experience Tantric practices!”
Sounds like you had a lot of different enjoyable experiences at Kinky Kollege.
Have a safe trip home.
Take care. Sky
@Sky,
You’re more than welcome for the links… I’ll let you know what I think about it too!
Thanks,
aisha
i’ll be sure to adjust my stories accordingly!!! and yes, i did laugh out loud!!
nilla
@’Nilla,
Yeah, exactly! Laughing… glad you enjoyed it.
hugs,
aisha
I want to read The Ethical Slut, I’ve heard good things about it. And the book on power exchange sounds good too – of course sensual humiliation interests me enormously. Good suggestions. Please let us know what you think as you read things?
sounds like you’ve h*d * bl*st @ KK….btw….*fter being br*tty to M*ster tonite, (oh, it w*s sooooooo funny)…He h*s t*ken the first letter of the *lph*bet….the one th*t comes before “B”?
T*ken th*t from me for punishment.
(*nd the words –opposite of no– and wh*t you s*y *fter Ple*se….)
love,
nill*
Goodness Gracious, ‘Nilla. What a mess you’re in. And for how long???? Um, you can’t say yes or thank you?? Good Grief. I’m so sorry. Um, can’t wait to hear what you did…
hug,
aisha
@Sin,
I’ll be delighted to let you know as i go along. Dan and dawn do a podcast too – you’d like them, I think. Check them out on fetlife.
Thanks,
aisha
Woo-hoo! I love learning new things. Thanks for all the great info and links!
Hugs,
Donna
@Donna,
Believe me, it’s my pleasure…
aisha