Some bits and pieces of the weekend –
– we went shopping, returning the clothes that didn’t work – and He helped me pick out some other ones – and, much to my delight, joined me in the dressing room while i tried them on. i’m not a big shopper, and i hate trying things on, but with Him sitting in the room, commenting and occasionally pinching a nipple, it was a much better experience.
Hmmm, what else have i not told you that you would be interested in? You know that He’s sweet and funny and Masterful… and i was His slave for the weekend.
O –
– Sunday afternoon – we have a last meal together – and go to his car, which is actually an SUV – and i think He has forgotten that He said He was going to “mark” me.
No, not with a tattoo or a brand – thank goodness – but with a marker. A sharpie, to be exact.
So we finish eating, and He puts me in the car. i think we’re driving away. Instead, He re-parks in a less populated part of the lot. He says, “Wait a minute.” Which, since He’s driving, what else would i do?
But He goes around to the trunk, and when He comes back He’s got a bright blue sharpie in hand.
i giggle. i can’t help it. The whole idea amuses me – and kind of delights me too.
He opens the door on my side – the door and His body pretty effectively block anyone’s view of me – which is a good thing. “Come on,” He says, “I want your ass – show me your ass.”
That makes my heart beat faster – omigosh – right here? i’m wearing sweats now, comfy for the trip home, so i lean over and slide them down – butt in the air and exposed.
Yikes. In broad daylight.
It tickles, as He writes – and He writes for a while. It’s not a short message.
Then – butt slap – and i pull my pants back up. “What does it say?” i ask.
He grins. “It says:
This slave is the personal property of {His Name}
i’m laughing too, “Omigod, reallly?” and even though i’m laughing, a shiver runs through me, and it does now too, as i write about it.
i imagine some ways i could get caught with these words on my ass, and even while i’m hoping that doesn’t happen, i realize i don’t really care… And –
– this sounds so easy when i write it, and it is almost all easy with Him, but every once in a while i realize how deep into this i’m getting. You know, here i am exposing my butt in a parking lot in broad daylight. Without a second thought.
Yikes.
So what does all this mean? Am i really a slave? Is that really different from being submissive?
Am i really gonna be MoR’s slave?
Who knows…
i think MoR and i are trying it on at this point, i guess we’ll see…
He told me the marker would rub off on toilet seats all the way home, but that didn’t happen. Instead, on Tuesday, when i pulled back the covers on my bed, i discovered a big blue area – obviously, right where my butt would be.
{Laughing} i don’t know what my housekeeper made of that. But she didn’t mention it, and that works for me.
So what do youall think? Is a slave different from a submissive? If so, how – or why – or why not? i know this gets talked to death on fetlife, but this is here – and now – and it’s really me we’re talking about…
You know, Aihsa, I’m pretty sure those new hi-tech scanners allow TSA workers to read what folks have written on their asses… Mick
{laughing} Thanks, Mick. Ya know, even if you’re right – and you probably are – then they’ve seen so many tattoos and probably even real brands that a little blue marker won’t even make them blink.
That’s my theory, anyhow, and I’m sticking to it.
aisha
not that i’m even remotely an expert on this and, yes, this has been discussed at length on FL but if you ask me…
the primary difference between sub and slave is that as a sub you have choice as a slave you do not… all decisions are made by Him.
i’m sure a complete and utter oversimplification, but the cascading effects of this general principle are immense.
BUT… even more importantly… at the end of the day… it’s how the two of you define it.
kk
I’m with sweet kk on this one, there is that general definition that is bandied about all over the place, but at the beginning and end of each day it is how you two define it.
Sounds fun though !
HSxx
@Kk – Yeah, I think you’re right – for real, I don’t see me giving Him – or anyone – all decision making power. I guess stranger things have happened though. {laughing} But I can’t imagine when.
@HS – yes. And since I kind of consider you a role model for slaves, if you say that, it must be so… thanks!
aisha
Aisha
What happens when you cross and elephant and a rhino?
Ell-If-I-Know
same anwswer for your question
but
golly — it sounds like both of you had a lovely lovely time
sfp
@Sfp – LOL – great answer. aisha
However you define it, it sounds like happiness for you.
{smiling} I am, for sure…
aisha
It’s what the two of you decide it is! And the sharpie marking…I love it! I’d have been looking in the mirror every chance I got. I am so very happy for you , aisha. He sounds perfect for you.
k.
Hey, K –
Yeah, it was fun, and i did so some checking it out! Thanks…
And – I don’t know what to call you now. I went with K cause it stands for knotty and other things too… KLM? That wouldn’t be too bad. Did youall plan for the intials to be in order like that? Kinda cool.
aisha
Some of what I offer Bill falls more into slave than submissive, but then some of what Bill does for me might be considered more submissive than Dom behavior. We don’t really care. It’s in the completion of that circle of need and having needs met that we find a good life together, whatever descriptor anyone else might use.
I will say that our lives as Dom/sub are less stressful because we both know how to say please and thank you. And that we never ever bring out heavy duty toys when either of us is angry, whether over world events or cat vomit.
Down the Rabbit Hole has a good (and humorous) post on the same discussion today.
http://deviantrabbit.blogspot.com/2011/03/service.html?zx=36bb66d0bad66097
Hugs,
Donna
Dear Donna,
Yours is the voice of reason for sure – that’s such a good way to look at it. Yeah, that basic relationship stuff plays out whether you’re D/s or M/s or vanilla.
Thanks for the link – it was cute and funny!
aisha