Yesterday’s comments were so interesting – i love the perspective each of you brings. Really, really we need to have a kinky bloggers convention ~ think how cool it would be if we could sit around drinking coffee – or wine, or whatever – chatting about this stuff!
Ok, i know, i’m relentless. Yes. And youall are shy. Whatever.
Sigh.
That’s ok, when the time’s right, we’ll make it happen.
But i was flipping through my notes on Kinky Kollege ~ i went to see Tammy Jo Eckhart talk on Writing Erotica to Communicate. It was an excellent presentation, she’s smart and interesting, and read us a short story she’d done, which was fun. Here’s her website: http://www.thetammyjo.com/
But you know, i already write erotica to communicate, and so do most of you all. So when she talks about the six goals, i’m mentally checking them off ~ yep, that, and that….
Which is exciting in its own way ~ being in synch with the expert. You know, it’s a workshop thing. When you start going to workshops on a particular topic, it’s all new and eye-opening.
Then there’s a phase where you know a lot and you’re checking to see if they’re approaching it differently or if you’re missing something. That’s kind of where i am now, at least with this particular workshop.
Here, you’ll see what i mean ~ look at the six goals she identifies for using erotica to communicate:
1. To express desires define what you want, not necessarily what you need.
2. To create a safe place to have dialogue about it.
3. It gives you a chance to explore possibilities with little chance of failure. Start with the fantasy and go from there.
4. To help you investigate your feelings.
5. To help you clarify your opinions.
6. To identify role models. {i think she was referring here to using other people’s erotica to communicate… but i could be wrong.}
Anyhow, those are things that we already do, whether we write our own blogs, read other people’s, comment, or just lurk. It’s nice to see it kind of laid out like that though…
And tomorrow, Sir and i have a date. Which makes me tingle just thinking about it. i have no idea what we’re going to do ~ and don’t care.
i started to say “anything would be ok with me,” but that might be pushing my luck. Let me stick to “i don’t care what He has planned.”
And Saturday, we’re going to the munch, which will be fun. It would be even more fun if there were a play party afterwards… but a sub can’t have everything.
Hopefully, Sir and i will stage our own play party… visions of canes and collars, cuffs and clamps dance in my head.
